peninsulamamoenam replied to your post “I’ve mentioned before that Wednesday afternoons are basically my…”

That, my friend, is a very good day, and goddamn you’ve earned it!

I HAVE. I’m diving back in today, but I feel re-energized.

nox-candida replied to your post “I’ve mentioned before that Wednesday afternoons are basically my…”

I’m jealous. Sounds like a positively lovely day.

It was splendid!

I’ve mentioned before that Wednesday afternoons are basically my weekends, and today, despite the rain, was positively the most ideal one. Quick and painless errands, a long browse in a used bookstore, perusing some Carol Ann Duffy books to pick a poem to share with my Gender Studies class (a bit of work, but certainly the most fun), homemade Thai chicken pizza (seriously, I could bathe in my peanut sauce, it’s that good), and a couple of Pen’s elderflower old-fashioneds to go with a few episodes of The West Wing. Bliss.

Bookstore haul (with a random discount because it was raining and I think the cashier was bored without any other customers):

  • Lillian Faderman’s Chloe Plus Olympia: An Anthology of Lesbian Literature from the Seventeenth Century to the Present
  • Muriel Rukeyser’s book of poems The Gates
  • May Sarton’s novel Joanna and Ulysses (with the cutest illustrations of Greece and donkeys and strong female artist protagonists, etc)
  • Elizabeth Barrett Browning’s Sonnets from the Portuguese in a gorgeous Peter Pauper Press edition (my third copy, but I do adore the collection so)

It’s hard to shake the idea that Game Of Thrones, the show, doesn’t see a problem with pushing a scene from complicated, consensual sex to outright rape. It would be easier to accept that idea if it were clear what the show was trying to do with those changes. Rape is a tricky thing to use as character development, for either the victim or the rapist; doing it twice raises a lot of red flags. It assumes that rape between characters doesn’t fundamentally change the rest of their story—and it assumes that the difference between consent and rape is, to use the parlance, a “blurred line.”

Unfortunately, the show is wrong, on both counts. Changing a scene from consensual sex to rape is not just a pedantic issue of accuracy—it’s a problem with story. The Daenerys Targaryen who falls in love with a man who granted her respect when no one else would is different from the Daenerys Targaryen who fell in love with her rapist. It changes that relationship. (Dany falling in love with Drogo, and calling him her “sun and stars,” makes a whole lot more sense now, doesn’t it?)

Similarly, Jaime is a figure of chivalric love in the books—despite his arrogance and ruthlessness, his devotion and sense of duty to Cersei, the only woman he has ever loved, is so fervent as to border on adoration. Admittedly, the show can’t rely on his point-of-view chapters, as the book does, to communicate that love. But given what we have seen Cersei Lannister capable of—her ex-husband is hardly the only man she’s had killed—is it even conceivable that she would stand for it? Jaime raping Cersei is a major anomaly for these two characters—even based purely on what we’ve seen in the show. It’s just not something that either character would do.

Sonia Saraiya, Rape of Thrones: Why are the Game of Thrones showrunners rewriting the books into misogyny? (via starringmarlonbrando)

whiskeydaisy replied to your post “Dapper folks and fans: HYPOTHETICALLY, if a dapper-femme person…”

black or white v-neck tee, cropped black trousers, sockless oxfords or chucks, and super-winged liquid eyeliner?

This is what I was leaning toward! (I mean, possibly with hot pink lipstick instead of the eyeliner, if only because I’m awful at eyeliner, but in that general direction)

nox-candida replied to your post “Dapper folks and fans: HYPOTHETICALLY, if a dapper-femme person…”

I like whiskeydaisy’s suggestion, but I was going to add rolled up or capri jeans instead of cropped black pants.

Oh, I like this too! 

peninsulamamoenam replied to your post “Dapper folks and fans: HYPOTHETICALLY, if a dapper-femme person…”

However you manage it, this absolutely needs to happen, and the internet needs photographic evidence

:D I’m fairly certain that’s a given. You know me, I can hardly resist a good selfie opportunity.

tartanfics replied to your post “Dapper folks and fans: HYPOTHETICALLY, if a dapper-femme person…”

Throw a tea party and attend as the butler. That’s what I do with my tailcoat.

LOVE. An excuse for a tea party is always good in my book. Plus then I could still use the top hat, too.

somethingsarenotuptous replied to your post “It is possible that, faced with the necessity of doing laundry to…”

LOL, are you me? I have a drawer full of cheap underwear I don’t like because I’ve done this so many times.

Ugh, right? I’m just trying to find a better solution to the style I’ve been wearing for a decade which are becoming increasingly expensive and available in fewer and fewer colors, sigh. Maybe one day! I live in hope!

Whatever became of the moment when one first knew about death? There must have been one, a moment, in childhood, when it first occurred to you that you don’t go on forever. It must have been shattering, stamped into one’s memory. And yet I can’t remember it. It never occurred to me at all. We must be born with an intuition of mortality. Before we know the word for it, before we know that there are words, out we come, bloodied and squalling… with the knowledge that for all the points of the compass, there’s only one direction and time is its only measure.